Q1: There's this girl / boy I like but they don't know me, what should I do?
A1:

Step one, talk to them. If you have problem talking to the opposite sex then practise talking to them as friends, and if need be have a friend of the same sex present to aid the flow of the conversations. Ultimately treat them as friends first until you've gain confidence in talking to them.
When time comes, just find the right time and sit (or stand) next to this girl/boy you like and introduce yourself. Pick it up from there, don't complicate it by planning out all the things you're gonna say, because it won't work and it'll most likely inflict panic attacks if your plan fails.

Step two, ask them out on a casual date. If they're not negative towards your approach, then CASUALLY bring out the possibly of doing something together, be it having a meal, going to the mall, watching a movie, anything. If they seem reluctant at first then immediately add "'cos me and some friends are going."
If they're genuinely not interested, don't persue it, move on. You've been rejected, get over it.


Q2: I'm depressed, nobody loves me, should I kill myself?
A2:

Straight answer is NO. Remember that only YOU THINK nobody loves you. When you're depressed everyone seems to be against you and nobody seems to be there when you need them. It's not to late to change things.
If you really seriously and I mean SERIOUSLY considered committing suicide and didn't go through with it, then go seek professional help. It's purely confidential and you'll have trained professionals dealing with people like you on daily basis.
If you're just crying for help, respect all the sympathy you get. Sympathy is an addictive drug, and before you know it you'll do everything you can to stay a miserable soul just to milk some more sympathy from others, before they eventually give up on you and you'll be too far into the mud to pull yourself out. Take the sympathy and respect that people are trying to help you, so make the effort to help yourself.

Depression is not an attractive quality. Don't watch tragic movies and think how people are so attracted to the depressed type. This is reality, people are only attracted to mature and fun people because everyone's got problems to deal with on their own, they can do with some fun rather than your depression to remind them out sad life is.
Read some self improvement books, stop thinking about depressing thoughts and work out how to make yourself happier. If you truely want to be happy, however desperate a situation you're in, there'll be hope, trust me on it.
If you can't immediately figure out why you're depressed, then focus your energy on avoiding the depression by hanging out with friends and do fun things. People will show you respect if you don't show them your miserable side. Enjoy your time with others and avoid being alone. If you can't help but have a few hours alone once in a while, rent a movie, be it a comedy or romance.
Don't express your sorrow through pen and paper, unless you're able to appreciate the work you've produced. Anything you've done in the past that makes you more miserable afterward, remember what it was and stop doing it in the future.

Ultimately as time passes you'll begin to find out what it takes to be happy, and hopefully by communicating with friends and family you'll untie some knots unknowingly in yourself. If you still can't help feeling the depression in you, then again, seek professional help where people are trained to untie burdens you don't even know about.


Q3: I'm so depressed and lonely, I need someone, will you be my special person?
A3:

Back to the last question, depression isn't an attractive quality to find friends. If you're persuing a relationship thinking it'll solve your problems, WRONG. Relationship isn't a simple "two people happily together" status, it takes a lot of work, communication, respect, trust, compromise etc. If you're not happy alone, you WILL NOT be happy in a relationship. You can actually feel more alone in a relationship, because your other half might become sick of your "I'm drowning in sorrow" attitude.
Fix your problems first, become a happy person, before considering a relationship with anyone.

Of course, true love doesn't come around every corner and if you miss it, then it's hard to find another. Just because you're miserable doesn't mean you shouldn't find friends in people you like. The reality is you're just not ready for a relationship so you can approach it by friendship first. Friendship makes up a huge part of imtimate relationships, so it's not completely impossible for friends to move on as couples, it's just harder but that's another story.
Befriend people you like, and force yourself to stay on your best and happiest behaviour when you're with them. If you worry about getting too close to the "zone" and ruin your chances of being anything more than friends, then it's even more vital you follow the advice of not showing your sad side. The "zone" is generally when you reveal your inner self to each other.

Q4: I'm fat and I can't lose weight, my friends pick on me, what should I do?
A4:

That's really two problems in one. First the weight problem, it's about dedication and motivation.

DO NOT go on diets with other people. If you want to lose weight the first thing to do is to stay away from people who have compulsive eating disorders, it takes very little to break people's spirit and start eating again. Instead hang with a few close friends who have no weight problems.

General diet really isn't the solution to weight problem, exercise is. If you eat normal amount of food daily for your energy output and your growth, you shouldn't gain weight at abnormal rate. Eat the right amount of food you're suppose to eat as a normal person, instead of less than (last thing you need to feel is hunger and lose your spirit). Do exercises with a friend who does regular exercise anyway. Ask them to push you everyday to do enough exercise and you should be on the right track.

Obviously some people's problem is bigger than this, but unless you actually have an eating disorder, this works.

If you friends pick on you about your weight, the last thing you need to do is to show that you're hurt by it. You don't have to ignore that you have a problem, but be comfortable with who you are. If you're working to reduce your weight then you shouldn't feel bad for what people say. The more weakness you display when people pick on you, the more offensive and abusive they could become.
Anger is different. If you can express to them that you're already working on your weight problem and that you're just annoyed by their ignorance, it might generate some motivation to why you oughta shed the weight off.

Don't go on the extreme side of weight loss. Accept that you should lose your weight progressively, so that your body can handle the changes.


Q5: I'm in love, what should I do?
A5:

You're not in love. Generally speaking nobody can tell you "you're not in love" when you are, but when you're not in love then we have the right to say otherwise.

You can't be in love with someone you don't know.
You can't be in love with someone you only just started to know.
You can't be in love with someone you've never seen.

However much you want to disagree, you're wrong. You can like someone so much that it hurts not to see them. But when you're in love, the other person is always with you.

I won't go into what I think love is, but unless you're already in a relationship, you're not in love. And if you're in a relationship, you shouldn't need to ask anything.


Q6: Should I...?
A6:

Everyone have their own views on what's morally and ethnically right. We can change your mind, but it's not something that happens overnight. If we can convince you to change your view on moral and ethnics then you didn't have a strong view on the first place and it's a bad idea to let strangers change your mind.

Yes, we can offer our experiences and point of views. But we're strangers, we can all be psychos. Don't trust us, look for your friends, people who're familiar with your environment and who you can trust. They'll closer resemble how appropriate your situations are and thus what the moral values should be.

Overtime your views can change, but don't expect someone to just come and add a whole new meaning to life on a forum. It CAN happen, but it's a rarity so it's much a waste of time.


Q7: This friend of mine is doing something stupid, how should I stop them?
A7:

You can't summarize your friend's personality in a few words, and we're not directly speaking to your friend. YOU have to tell him/her what they're doing is wrong, and our advice will rarely be relevant and accurate to their personality since we don't know how this person would react.
If they do something stupid, sit down and talk to them about it. If they don't respect your views, either they're not good friends or you've not earn their respect because you lack confidence in yourself in the past. The more you ask strangers of how to deal with situations, the less confidence you will have in yourself. So just go and deal with your friend best you can and see what happens.


(more to come...)